Do you ever feel so uncomfortable saying ‘no’, that you end up saying ‘yes’ because you don’t want to make waves, or make the other person feel bad?
If so, you are not alone!
How are you doing my friend?
If you are Canadian, hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving long weekend and if you are from someplace else I hope you are having a fabulous October.
I am loving the colours this autumn and last weekend for our Thanksgiving dinner (pic below), I used some pale bluey / green, white and orange pumpkins, along with dried sage, chestnuts we found, and the last of my dahlias, to decorate our front door and tables for our turkey dinner.
Love that turkey soup!
It was a busy weekend for us but we all enjoyed getting together with 18 family members to eat some delicious food and celebrate all we are thankful for, and then to chillax the next day on the holiday Monday.
All I can say is that I had my feet up for most of the day!
But now to the topic at hand…
So, are you a ‘people pleaser’?
The other week I had a client say to me;
“There are some people that you just cannot say ‘no’ to”.
Hmmm….
Nope.
Not buying that.
Everyone has the right to say ‘no’ at any time and to any person!
I know that often saying ‘no’ is hard, we don’t want to hurt people’s feelings, we don’t want to seem confrontational, we just want to get along with everyone.
But this is real life and real life means having difficult conversations and saying tough things (such as ‘no’) if we want to protect ourselves, our energy and our souls.
How to cure the ‘disease to please’
I have created a brand new YouTube video that discusses why saying ‘no’ is a must for a happy life and in the video I also share the #1 reason why people fall into ‘people pleasing’ mode.
Can you guess what it is?
Click HERE to find out!
If you like the video please leave a ‘like’, a comment, ask me any questions you may have and remember to subscribe when you are there. Click HERE to watch.
SHINE – It’s Your Time FaceBook Group
Also if you are not already a member, message me on FaceBook to get in on the private ‘SHINE’ It’s Your Time group (women only).
Tonight some of us SHINE ladies & friends are off to see the Downton Abbey movie. It is suppose to be good!
But even if you aren’t local we would love you to join the 40 member group of amazing women where we have some great on – line challenges (with prizes!), and I share other videos, inspirational info. and tips on healthy relationships and mental wellness.
Msg. me through the FB link above if you want in 🙂
All women welcome!
Enjoy those autumn colours and your weekend!
xo
Eliz
